You've tried. You really have. But nothing changes.

It's the same argument on repeat. You can't remember when you felt happy in the relationship. You're starting to think maybe you just weren't made for one another. Maybe a fresh start with someone else is the answer. 

You don't really want to break up, but living like this won't cut it.

That's where the National Institute for Healthy Relationships can help.

Uncovering the why and how you got here is helpful, but we'll go deeper to the real solution. We're talking core level healing. We address the parts of you that don't want to use skills in the moment.

The most important work happens away from session time. That's when you'll practice what actually moves the needle.

I don't mean communication techniques or conflict resolution skills you'll never use anyway. We're talking results driven strengths-based exercises that make you better equipped for anything life throws at you, including the relationship with your mate.

You're going to like the difference this makes.

Let's get started.

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Frequently Asked Questions

You don't need to be at the absolute end of your rope to benefit from counseling. Many couples seek support because they're having the same argument, they're not feeling heard, or they simply want to be closer. Life transitions are a great time to get support too. Like after the kids come along. Or when it's just the two of you as the nest empties. The investment helps you gain clarity and develop healthier ways of relating. It's a good fit if you want things to be better than they are.

While every situation is unique, every situation can be improved. It is possible to rebuild trust, and strengthen connection even after years of distance or repeated conflict. Couples counseling provides a space to slow down, understand what's happening beneath the surface, and explore whether meaningful change will happen in this pairing. You don't have to have all the answers before reaching out. You simply have to be willing to explore. Yes, that can feel a bit nerve wracking. That's why we're with you each step of the way.

Many people have the perception or experience of Couples Counseling meaning they each get their concerns heard and validated. That can feel good in the moment, but change absolutely nothing about the relationship. In fact, it can make things worse. That's why Couples Counseling at the National Institute for Healthy Relationships is truly different. Your counselor isn't just listening and assigning skills to practice next time you disagree. They're fostering core level healing for each of you so that you can create a fulfilling relationship.

No. When you engage Couples Counseling, the relationship becomes the client. It's our baby and we are all taking care of it.

That said, there are some things that are good for the relationship and some things that are like shooting yourself in the foot. Your counselor will definitely point out when the two of you are stuck in one of these losing strategies. They're not good for either one of you and they are not good for the relationship.

We're shifting the pattern so you can create something that works for both of you.

It depends on the issues and your willingness to engage the process. Give it at least six to eight sessions before you decide. That's very realistic for how long it takes to noticably shift things in a relationship. If you quit a few sessions in, you'll miss the benefit of that first shift. Couples who graduate treatment can spend a year or more in Couples Counseling. Make the investment and you are going to walk away with priceless knowledge, insight, and wisdom that will serve you for the rest of your life.

This is so common. Often one partner reaches out first while the other feels uncertain about counseling. Reluctance doesn't necessarily mean a lack of commitment to the relationship. It may simply mean your partner has questions, concerns, or misconceptions about the process. Remember, each of you can do your own 20-minute consultation call at the National Institute for Healthy Relationships and ask all the questions. Shifting the relationship might be faster with both of you, but if your mate really doesn't want to participate, you can make a difference alone. READ HERE about Individual Counseling for Relationship Help.